Monday, December 30, 2013
There always seems to be an after holiday blues. I watch families getting together with friends and because I don't have a spouse that seems to not happen with my family. It is time like this that I feel like I lost so much more then just Mark. I watch my siblings doing things with their spouses and I don't get too. I watch families get together and I feel like since Mark is gone my other family just doesnt do as much anymore. I miss being a part of so many things. While I love being with my family and friends it is hard to feel a part of things when half of you is gone. I'm happy with where my life is. Someday are just still hard. I just hope that whoever reads this will please remember how important family is! How important it is to love and even more important to forgive! It is not worth looking a relationship over. I hope my family will always know how much I love them!
Thursday, December 12, 2013
Tuesday, December 10, 2013
This past weekend was Mark and I's twelth anniversary. Which means I would have been with him for 16 yrs! I wish I was really with him for 16 yrs! I wished I could say it was the best 16 yrs of my life. These were the thoughts that went through my head. But then i couldn't help but think I was able to date the funnest guy around for 4 yrs! How lucky am I? Then I got eight years with just him! How lucky am I? He helped make it possible for me to have three of the best kids around. How lucky am I? Pretty dang lucky! Heavenly Father knows and loves me. He knew exactly what I needed to help me become the best me. I may not be perfect, and I may not have a lot. But I am happy most of the time and that has been a long time coming. I have talked myself out of happy. How can I be happy if Mark isn't here? How can I be happy without him? I know that Mark wants me to be happy. I know that he wants me to do those things that are important to him. I have taken so many of those things away from my family because I didn't want to do them without him. But this week it has hit me hard that he is here, he doesn't leave us! We are his #1! I need to help him do those things that I know he wants me too! Here's to a stronger family and a happier day!
Saturday, November 23, 2013
It's days like today that I just want things to go back to the way they were 4 years ago. I want to go back to my home. I want Mark to get after the kids so I don't always have to be the bad guy. I want to go for a drive in the car with my best friend to just talk about nothing and everything. I want him to just lay with. To tell me we can make it. To tell me maybe I'm not the best mom, but that I am still a good one. Oh well, life gave me a different path. And tomorrow is a new day and new days aren't always bad days.
Saturday, October 5, 2013
Sunday, September 8, 2013
I am just screaming inside and wonder if anyone really cares, but maybe they just don't see. My heart is constantly breaking. There is a worry that never ends. there is a big hole that can't be filled. I don't want to sound ungrateful cause I not! I have been blessed with so many people who love me. But can they really see, do they really even want to know? can they see the pain that is there everyday? Can they see my life falling apart? Can they see the walls being built up around me so I won't get hurt and the ones of comfort and peace being torn down and I can't stop them? Do they see the pain of every peice of clothing every paper every box that is filled? Do they not see that I just need out! That I can't do it anymore! Cant they see that I am going to break! That I am going to crumble? Why am alone? Why aren't they here? I am not writing this for everyone to come running! I am not writing this to make anyone feel bad for me. These are just the thoughts going through my head. I love that I have been blessed with what I have I am greatfull for the strength I have to endure this life.
Monday, July 22, 2013
To my Mark! There's a whole nother conversation going on in a parallel universe Where nothing breaks and nothing hurts There's waltz playing frozen in time Blades of grass on tiny bare feet I look at you and you're looking at me. Could you beam me up, Give me a minute, I don't know what I'd say in it Probably just stare, happy just to be there holding your face Beam me up Let me be lighter, tired of being a fighter I think, a minute's enough Just beam me up. Saw blackbirds soaring in the sky, Barely a breath I caught one last sight Tell me that was you, saying goodbye, There are times I feel the shiver and cold, It only happens when I'm on my own I tell ya, tell me, I'm not alone Could you beam me up, Give me a minute, I don't know what I'd say in it I'd probably just stare, happy just to be there, holding your face Beam me up, Let me be lighter, I'm tired of being a fighter, I think, a minutes enough, Just beam me up. In my head, I see your baby blues I hear your voice and I, I break in two and now there's One of me, with you So when I need you can I send you a sign I'll burn a candle and turn off the lights I'll pick a star and watch you shine Just beam me up, Give me a minute, I don't know what I'd say in it Probably just stare, happy just to be there, holding your face Beam me up, Let me be lighter, tired of being a fighter, I think, a minutes enough, Beam me up Beam me up Beam me up Could you beam me up~ By Pink
"How do you do it?" This is the questio I feel, like I get asked every time I talk to someone new or someone I haven't seen in a long time. What do they want me to say? "oh it's easy?" Really this is what I feel like saying. I don't do it! Or I don't want to do it! But really this is how I do it. And I promise you it's not done very well. I do it with no sleep at night cause I have to lay in this room all by myself. I do it with tears in my eyes cause nothing will ever be the same. I do it with a constant pain that won't go away. I do it with no one to talk to or discuss what needs to be done to make it from day to day. I do it with a constant prayer in my heart cause nothing feels right anymore. I do it wondering if my prayers are even being heard. I do it wondering why my plan and my Heavenly Fathers plan for me just doesn't seem to match up. I do it wondering how I'm going to work to pay the bills and get my kids from one place to another all at the same time. I do it knowing that it will all be worth it one day. I do hoping that I am not ruining my kids. I do it knowing that my sweet Mark is right by my side. I do it with faith that my Heavenly Father knows me and loves me very much. I do it knowing that I have three kids that need me to. But most of all I do it because I love my eternal companion and friend Mark and I don't want to let him down. I do it, yes! But it's hard and it's scary and I hate that I have to do it! But I love that I can do it.
Sunday, May 12, 2013
She gave them love she gave them life She chose to do more then what was right She is brave she is strong She taught them right she taught them more She loved them enough to give them more She opened up a brand new door I wanted more I wanted to share life I wanted to do more then what was right I wanted to be brave I wanted to be strong I hoped that I wouldn't do you wrong I was excited I was scared I just wanted them to know how much I cared. She didn't know what was in store Yet she trusted two, who needed more She gave us three children, who would lead the way For our little family to be together someday Dad they grew to love in just year Then what happened we all feared Dad went to heaven to lead the way Don't worry we still feel him every day Now a Mothers journey had just begun But oh the blessings she had won Three little angels here with me And one up above I can't wait to see From two Mothers heart to two Mothers arms We share a love that can't be harmed She is brave she is strong She taught them right she taught them wrong I hope she knows I hope she can see How much these children mean to me She gave them love she gave them life She chose to do more then what was right I love you Irene I am so honored to share Mothers day with you!
Thursday, March 21, 2013
The last few weeks I have found myself focusing on things that are really quite silly. I have found myself not listening to the little things my kids have to say because I am to busy doing things like texting, or playing a game on my phone. These things aren't necessarily bad things to be doing but they seem to be taking my time and focus away from what is important to my kids. For me my little phone is kind of an out. However I need to make sure that I am not letting it become more important then my family. So I am going to give myself a challenge, and that is to put it away when I am with those that are most important.
Wednesday, March 20, 2013
This might make me seem like a terrible mom, but sick kids bug me. For the last four days I have had sick kids. They complain about hurting and then don't want to do what I tell them will help them feel better. They want me to lay by them. Really? Why would I want to lay by a sick kid? Then of course I get sick too. Well who's going to lay by me? Who's going to get me something to help me feel better? One of them was having pains in there side. I ask them does it sting? I don't know. Is it a sharp pain? I don't know. Is it inside it outside of your body? I don't know. Well if they don't know who does? If they don't tell me, how am I supposed to help? one of them threw up in the night. It was on the ceiling, floor, bed and on the clean pile of cloths that I had just washed. Why would you lean over the side of the bed to throw up after you already threw up in your bed. Why not just throw up on the blanket that you had already gotten dirty? Seriously! I didn't make the mess, why do I have to clean it up my throw up made it to the toilet. I do love my kids very much I just HATE when they are sick!
Tuesday, March 19, 2013
So for the most part my days are filled with laughter and joy. I can honestly say that I am happy. I am happy with were I am, and I am happy with were my kids are. However, there are days that what has happened just hits me and I realize that my worst fear in life came true. These are the times that I want to fall asleep and wake up and have this dream be done. I want to wake up with Mark next to me and it be September 11, 2010. I want two new dresses laid out for Niyah's baptism and confirmation, cause that would mean I didn't spend the whole night sewing and I got to spend it laying with my sweet Mark. I want to wait for him to get dressed and walk over to the church together, cause that would mean I wouldn't have to go back to find him. I want to watch him baptize my little girl, I want to hear him give that beautiful blessing and dunk her in that water, maybe twice cause her toe didn't go all the way under. I want to watch him confirm her a member of the church. I want to walk back home take pictures and eat all of the yummy good that was prepared and have a house full of family and friends. But my perfect day ended up perfect in a totally different way. I miss you Mark and can't wait till I can wake and run into your arms. But until that day please know that I am happy, that the kids are doing well, and that we love you and you are always in our hearts.
Wednesday, March 13, 2013
Being a mom is hard. I never feel like I am doing a very good job. Oh how I wish I could just say,"okay, its your turn" to there dad. But that's not how it worked out so I have to figure it out. I have to figure out how when I am about to loose it I can get a hold of myself and handle things the way I am supposed to. But its not so easy. Yes I am the adult but a lot of the times I feel like a child. I feel like I want to throw a fit and hit the walls. But then that would cost way to much money to always be fixing walls. Why do kids get to say that they hate me, but then if I say I hate you too, then I am a bad mom! (I don't hate my kids). I was told once that when I was mad at them to think of them when they were little and cute. Well I didn't know them when they were little and cute. For the most part I love being a mom. My children are defiantly a gift from God, sent to me at a perfect time. I couldn't have been through what I have without them. But it is still hard work!
I got to spend the day with my niece. I love this age! I am so thankful that my family let's me spend time with their kids. I missed out on such a sweet time in life with my own kids. She talked non stop all day and said the cutest things. She played with my dogs and laughed so hard. She pounded on the piano and sang old McDonald had a farm. She was my little helper at the store and my buddy for lunch. She asks about my dad (Mark) all grave. She asked me if this is where we were married. I can only imagine what is going through her little brain. We talked to a guy at the cemetery that was setting traps, she immediately made a new friend. I can totally see why we are told to become like a little child. They are so teachable and loving to everyone and everything. Love my Berlynney Bug!
Tuesday, March 12, 2013
At the store today while my friend and I were buying books we saw this Liahona. We jokes how that would have been nice to have. As I've gone throughout the day I have been thinking about our modern day Liahona's and how I don't use them enough. Everyday we can take the time to read the words that were prepared for us in scripture. We can ponder and talk directly with our Heavenly Father through prayer. We can attend our church meetings and partake in the sacrament. We can also enter into the Temples. are just a few modern Liahona's that we have been given. Why did I think this would be nice to have? Why don't I use the ones I've been given everyday and be thankful for the guidance they give. I don't use these like I should in fact, I barely use them at all. I want to have the faith that Nephi had. I want to let the Lord guide me in my life, to show me the best way .
Monday, March 11, 2013
It has been 2 1/2 years since I lost the love of my life. It has taken awhile but I am ready to start a new chapter in my life. This chapter will have Mark in it just as much as the last but I have learned that it just has to be in a different way. Starting this new chapter has scared me. I thought that it ment that I had to leave Mark behind me, but I now know that is not how it has to be. I think about him everyday and that will not change. My thoughts of him are getting less sad and more happy. I love to talk about him and hear others talk about him as well. I love to share our story. I am so happy that I can share my story with others. This chapter just like the last won't be easy. I know that there will always be heartache and pain. I know that I have to work so much harder then I ever have. But I also know that my Heavenly Father wants me to be happy. I know that he wants the best for my little family. I am ready to be an instrument in the Lords hands. Let the new chapter begin! Mark, I hope your ready for this new ride.